Bloom, you beautiful flower

It’s no surprise to you that I love Sadhguru's teachings. I talked about him many times before.

He and other mentors state that the sole purpose of all live on earth is to become a full fletched version of ourselves. A flower wants to become the perfect blooming flower, an acorn a full grown, tall and strong tree. A caterpillar a butterfly and so on.

While these forces of nature are perfectly programmed to become what they can become. For you and me it’s a bit different. We have some different things to attend to in order to become our Oak Tree.

And while the recipe is simple, easy is doesn’t quite fit here.

Recently I went to Sadhguru’s seminar in Berlin and every time I hear him speak I understand what he says on a deeper level.

And this one really hit home last time I heard him speak and I have been practicing with it ever since.

The moderator asked Sadhguru if he ever got angry.

His answer was:

“That privilege belongs completely to myself. “

And now the coin fell even deeper.

Anger is a choice. Sadness is a choice. Suffering is a choice.

People can do all kinds of things to me but whether I get angry, sad even traumatised or stay indifferent. These emotions are all facultative....

I was watching an old training program of Jack Canfield where he speaks about kind of the same thing viewed from a different angle.

Let’s say that I say to you that you have a simple personality and you don’t look very nice, he said to a lady in the audience of his seminar.

You could either:

* Feel insulted and think what a d*ck head is this Jack Canfield, how dare he be so nasty.

Or ....

*You could say to yourself that’s interesting, Jack has known me for about one hour and he draws a conclusion about me. He probably secretly fancies me, he has been looking this way the whole time and it’s obvious that he’s interested. He just acts this way to get my attention.

Both are possible reactions to the exact same event.

Another instance of a talk I watched reminded me of this, which I love to share with you too.

Kyle Cease, a stand up comedian turned personal development teacher, does a show in which he asks a lady from the audience the following:

How would you react if I would say that you are a ugly blue haired monster.

The lady in the audience answers that she would not feel insulted, because she knows she’s not.

Then how is it, Kyle asked, that we do get mad when someone calls us incompetent, nasty or stingy

….

As a last example let me share this story with you about Buddha;

One day Buddha was giving a talk to a large audience. A man kept shouting “You are fake, you are nothing but a fake. You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.”

Buddha continued undisturbed while the man kept shouting. At the end of the talk the man went up to him and said: “I have to say you are very good, you didn’t even get a little bit angry at my insults”.

To which Buddha replied: If you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not accept it, to whom does the gift belong to?”

Moral of these stories:

- You are free to decide how you react to what another person says or does.

- When you are insulted, sad, angry or triggered in another way, it’s a sign that you have some work to do on that issue.

And when we have freed ourselves from our compulsive reactions we are one step closer to becoming the blossoming flower, strong rooted oak tree that we wish to be.

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With Love,

Monique

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